I missed my kid’s graduation today.
His 8th grade graduation.
His 8th grade graduation that he worked toward for 3 years.
His 8th grade graduation that he worked toward for 3 years while also negotiating expressive and receptive language disorders, crippling anxiety, post traumatic stress disorder and various other delays.
HE MADE IT THROUGH MIDDLE SCHOOL, friends, and his mama just totally blew it on the celebration end.
Blew it, blew it. Like Chernobyl.
I missed my kid’s graduation today, and I don’t even have a good excuse. I just didn’t read the emails from the school as thoroughly as I should have. It was there. In all the newsletters. I know it was, because I raced back to them today after my Facebook feed filled up with all my friends’ pictures of 8th grade graduation, hoping to find out they’d never told me so I could shift the blame. Alas, no such luck. I just… missed it.
I’ve gotta say, I feel like poo.
A giant, steaming pile o’ poo.
So I did what any wise, experienced, knowledgeable mama would do in my shoes.
I freaked out.
All woe is me and I suck ALL THE BALLS.
And I sent my husband a delightful string of instant messages that said things like, “HOW DID WE MISS THIS?!” and “NOW WE HAVE TO BUY HIM CHINESE FOOD FOR DINNER. UGH!” and “FUCK! FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK!”
I said that last one because I am mature in the Lord.
And then, after I was done freaking out… and after I finished apologizing to Greg for all the fucks… I calmed down and formulated a plan.
A strong plan.
A good plan.
A plan that involved Three Important Parenting Pillars, as follows:
- Modeling How to Apologize and Ask for Forgiveness
- Using This Teachable Moment to Help My Kid Learn Essential Life Skills
After I was done Implementing the Plan, I asked Ian if he’d help me make a video so we might use this situation to help educate other parents should they ever do something so awful to their kid. He agreed, and so I leave you with this:
Teaching Life Skills
by Beth and Ian Woolsey